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Wait … What if I’m Not Suffering Enough? A Q+A
One listener asks if it’s possible they aren’t feeling bad enough. Like-what if they aren’t suffering as much as they should be? We hear this concern a ton-and we are excited to...
Dear Chalesondra: Q+A Episode
Conflict in relationships is hard-but is it bad? On today’s Q +A episode we answer this Listener Question: Is it ok to have conflict with your partner, or does having problems mean...
Trusting My Gut – Should I or Shouldn’t I?
You meet someone. Your gut says “NOPE.” Do you override your intuition or listen?! Great question. Let’s discuss. Also-spoiler for the Netflix show Ozark around 4 minutes in. So...
About Your Mother, Part 1
Whew! Relationships with parent figures can feel complex, confusing, and sometimes just outright rejecting. We’re diving into a “Part 1” convo about navigating the mother (or...
How are clothes that don’t fit serving you?
Do you have a closet full of clothes that don’t fit? Sometimes, we keep these around because we hope that we will fit into them someday. Or, it would be admitting defeat to get rid of them....
Q+A! Q+A! Q+A!
A couple of Katie’s asked some questions-and we responded. Today, we give you more details about what exactly The Brink Academy is (spoiler-it’s amaze) AND how to handle doing your...
You Are Good, You Are OK.
As humans, we tend to operate from one assumption that creates a cascade of misery. Today, we are asking a big question that taps into this assumption and helps us shift from despair to hope....
It’s a Q+A Episode!
You’ve got questions, we’ve got answers! Today we’re tackling questions from our listeners on generating motivation to get sh*t done, building self-trust + self-love, and...
When They Just Refuse to Listen
Other people can be SO defensive, right?! It’s maddening. All we want is for them to listen-why is that SO hard? What in the world can you do when you aren’t being heard by someone?...
THIS is Why We Don’t Do New Sh*t
Doing. New things. Is so hard. Not only is it hard to do something we haven’t done before, but the vulnerability that comes along with doing it is so incredibly uncomfortable. In...
The Holy No
NO-a small word for a complicated concept. Most of us probably “should” say no more-but it can be so confusing to know what to say no to. In today’s episode we talk about how to...
I Want What You Have & Now It’s Hard to be Happy
Envy-we shake our fists at you! It’s so hard to see all the things that we wish we had-a beautifully organized closet, successful business, loving relationship, relaxing vacation. But what...
Wishing for a Feeling
As humans, we want to feel love, belonging, and a sense of emotional safety. Today we’re talking about some of the bullsh*t narrative we are sold about how we’re...
Add Pleasure to Boring Sh*t
Today, we’re having an oh-so-riveting conversation about why completing anything is sometimes difficult, and what to do when you’re just not wanting to finish something. Our advice!?...
That’s the Right Way to Feel
Today we are talking about the reasons why we choose to do things and how our motivations impact what we end up doing (and not doing!). Do you want to give your social person these links that we...
Joyfully Sluggish + Identity Shedding + Transitions
Today we are talking about what it’s like to go through transitions (life, relationships, seasons, etc.) and how it’s easy to become judgy about yourself without even realizing it....
Welcome to WIHTW! May We Normalize That For You!?
Welcome to our very 1st episode! Please allow us to introduce ourselves. This show will be a behind-the-scenes look at our work in mental + emotional health as two psychologists. If you’re...
The 26 Books I Read This Year
Hi, I’m Chelsi and I have the best of intentions to read books. I’ve always had a desire to learn (my friends say I’m a 5-holla at ya enneagrammers!) and a strong commitment to...
Book Review: Why Won’t You Apologize?
Apologies are complicated. Some people over do it, some people under do it. We can easily toss out an “I’m sorry” to a stranger we accidentally bump into, yet find it impossible...
The Major Source of Your Problematic Relationship with Food, Your Body, and Movement: Diet Culture
Diet culture is pretty much impossible to escape if you are a living and breathing being in the world. The term “Diet Culture” (otherwise known as the Bikini Industrial Complex) is...
How to Balance Being There for Yourself and Others (Part II)
What makes taking care of yourself and others hard? Well, one contributor has to do with why we choose to do things for others. Most of us see an opportunity to help or serve – and we think...
How to Balance Being There for Yourself and Others (Part I)
Would you like to be there for your partner, kids, parents, coworkers, employees, students AND yourself? Yes, Chelsi. Yes, I would. What are your thoughts about this? Thank you for asking. So...
Top Self-Sabotaging Mistake & How to Change It
When talking about what we want, we often say things like “I want to not revert into a spoiled brat when I am around my mother” or “I wish that I was more confident” or...
5 Steps to Actually Doing A Thing – Part II
Welcome back! I tantalized you in my previous post where I set up and named the steps to actually getting yourself to do new things, and now you are on pins and needles, ready for all the...
5 Steps to Actually Doing a Thing – Part I
New things are hard. Many times we either live in a perpetual state of not doing them, or we start them and then gradually stop. We are not these failures who can’t hack it. We are not...